Comments on: The COMPLETE story of my boys http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/ My Bag of Tricks about Family, Children, and Grief Sun, 25 Jul 2010 22:09:21 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Andrea http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-14246 Andrea Wed, 28 Oct 2009 16:36:45 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-14246 I'm so sorry for your losses. They change us, don't they? Those little ones that almost were, but will forever live in our hearts. (((Hugs))) I’m so sorry for your losses. They change us, don’t they? Those little ones that almost were, but will forever live in our hearts.

(((Hugs)))

]]> By: William is 3 « My Alligator Purse http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-13819 William is 3 « My Alligator Purse Wed, 29 Jul 2009 05:36:49 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-13819 [...] William was my subsequent-pregnancy. I got pregnant with him a mere 8 weeks after loosing the twins. Unlike previous pregnancies I was not excited about his, not because he wasn’t wanted but [...] [...] William was my subsequent-pregnancy. I got pregnant with him a mere 8 weeks after loosing the twins. Unlike previous pregnancies I was not excited about his, not because he wasn’t wanted but [...]

]]> By: Melanie aka Smellyann http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-12955 Melanie aka Smellyann Mon, 21 Jul 2008 20:28:34 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-12955 I'm so sorry you went through all that. I can definitely relate to a lot of it. ((((HUGS)))) and thanks for sharing that with me. Can I link to it from CARE Package? I’m so sorry you went through all that. I can definitely relate to a lot of it. ((((HUGS)))) and thanks for sharing that with me. Can I link to it from CARE Package?

]]> By: Melanie aka Smellyann http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-12954 Melanie aka Smellyann Mon, 21 Jul 2008 20:28:15 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-12954 I'm so sorry you went through all that. I can definitely relate to a lot of it. ((((HUGS)))) and thanks for sharing that with me. I’m so sorry you went through all that. I can definitely relate to a lot of it. ((((HUGS)))) and thanks for sharing that with me.

]]> By: My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-266 My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » Wed, 03 Jan 2007 02:45:04 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-266 [...] After we lost our twin sons I swore no more twins. I have avoided playgroups and broken down crying after seeing brown-haired twin boys in public. Then when Dora (from “Dora the Explorer”) had younger siblings, twins, and all the new toys and books came out - Dora with a baby carrier for two, a book labeled ‘Super Babies’ and even the doll house with twins - I swore they would never be in our home. I have spent months diverting my daughter’s attention from the colorful packages at the store and the enticing commercials on tv. I wouldn’t even let her watch the episodes featuring the siblings. I felt it cruel that just as my grief process had begun the media began to realize that multiple births were on the rise and therefore began to market new toys and movies to siblings of multiples. Even the new Barbie DVD features a set of triplets and two sets of twins in the dancing sisters movie. [...] [...] After we lost our twin sons I swore no more twins. I have avoided playgroups and broken down crying after seeing brown-haired twin boys in public. Then when Dora (from “Dora the Explorer”) had younger siblings, twins, and all the new toys and books came out – Dora with a baby carrier for two, a book labeled ‘Super Babies’ and even the doll house with twins – I swore they would never be in our home. I have spent months diverting my daughter’s attention from the colorful packages at the store and the enticing commercials on tv. I wouldn’t even let her watch the episodes featuring the siblings. I felt it cruel that just as my grief process had begun the media began to realize that multiple births were on the rise and therefore began to market new toys and movies to siblings of multiples. Even the new Barbie DVD features a set of triplets and two sets of twins in the dancing sisters movie. [...]

]]> By: My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » So Incredibly Thankful http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-128 My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » So Incredibly Thankful Mon, 04 Dec 2006 22:11:15 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-128 [...] I was devestated by the death of my twin sons. But here it is over a year later. I am facing the holidays knowing that I would have two almost one year olds crawling all over the house making decorating a tree difficult. I think about how much fun it would have been with 4 toddlers into everything, how difficult it would have been doing all the baking that I like and how I should be making 2 new full-size stockings this year instead of the two miniature ones I made last year. Although I am sad I am also incredibly thankful. I spend time fantasizing about delivering them full term or even breathing. I also fantasize about bringing them home, even if only for a few days. But I am thankful for those 18 weeks with them, although they brought me much turmoil I loved them from the start. Up until their death I thought I was a strong woman because of the few tears I shed over the deaths of loved ones, but I realize now that I did not truly know grief. Now I do. Grief and I are no longer enemies, but friends. I welcome grief and sadness into my life because that’s all I have of my sons. I don’t have balloons or birthday parties to remember their lives. [...] [...] I was devestated by the death of my twin sons. But here it is over a year later. I am facing the holidays knowing that I would have two almost one year olds crawling all over the house making decorating a tree difficult. I think about how much fun it would have been with 4 toddlers into everything, how difficult it would have been doing all the baking that I like and how I should be making 2 new full-size stockings this year instead of the two miniature ones I made last year. Although I am sad I am also incredibly thankful. I spend time fantasizing about delivering them full term or even breathing. I also fantasize about bringing them home, even if only for a few days. But I am thankful for those 18 weeks with them, although they brought me much turmoil I loved them from the start. Up until their death I thought I was a strong woman because of the few tears I shed over the deaths of loved ones, but I realize now that I did not truly know grief. Now I do. Grief and I are no longer enemies, but friends. I welcome grief and sadness into my life because that’s all I have of my sons. I don’t have balloons or birthday parties to remember their lives. [...]

]]> By: My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » William’s Baptism http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-111 My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » William’s Baptism Tue, 14 Nov 2006 22:26:52 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-111 [...] Last September we delivered identical twin sons at 18 weeks. The Catholic Church’s stand on the issue is to not baptize babies who are born still. Sadly, they were not baptized and did not receive a funeral. Instead a prayer service was held at the local mortuary. To add insult to injury the Catholic cemetary charged us a double internment fee since both twins were buried in the same plot. [...] [...] Last September we delivered identical twin sons at 18 weeks. The Catholic Church’s stand on the issue is to not baptize babies who are born still. Sadly, they were not baptized and did not receive a funeral. Instead a prayer service was held at the local mortuary. To add insult to injury the Catholic cemetary charged us a double internment fee since both twins were buried in the same plot. [...]

]]> By: My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » Jacob and Paul http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-52 My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » Jacob and Paul Tue, 12 Sep 2006 22:27:49 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-52 [...] My sons were born still almost a year ago. I am starting to get sad again although I have been “fine” for several months. Mostly I have been worried; worried that no one else will remember their short lives and worried that people will think I am selfish for mentioning them when I have such joy in my life with my other two kids and our new baby. I also feel incredibly guilty for feeling sad. My son William was born just 6 weeks ago. We got pregnant with him just 8 weeks after the twins died. If we hadn’t lost them we would have never been pregnant with William. So I feel guilty for missing my sons. As if I don’t appreciate or love William. I know its silly, but that doesn’t make my heart any lighter. [...] [...] My sons were born still almost a year ago. I am starting to get sad again although I have been “fine” for several months. Mostly I have been worried; worried that no one else will remember their short lives and worried that people will think I am selfish for mentioning them when I have such joy in my life with my other two kids and our new baby. I also feel incredibly guilty for feeling sad. My son William was born just 6 weeks ago. We got pregnant with him just 8 weeks after the twins died. If we hadn’t lost them we would have never been pregnant with William. So I feel guilty for missing my sons. As if I don’t appreciate or love William. I know its silly, but that doesn’t make my heart any lighter. [...]

]]> By: My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » Pregnant - AGAIN! http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-12 My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » Pregnant - AGAIN! Sat, 18 Feb 2006 03:55:15 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-12 [...] Its hard being pregnant this time around. It is number four for me. No, not my fourth child, but my fourth pregnancy - my 5th child. My twins are waiting for me in heaven. [...] [...] Its hard being pregnant this time around. It is number four for me. No, not my fourth child, but my fourth pregnancy – my 5th child. My twins are waiting for me in heaven. [...]

]]> By: My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » Twin Pregnancy http://www.alligatorpurse.org/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/comment-page-1/#comment-9 My Alligator Purse » Blog Archive » Twin Pregnancy Sun, 22 Jan 2006 22:22:15 +0000 http://www.technocage.com/~leslie/2005/11/15/the-complete-story-of-my-boys/#comment-9 [...] I am not a doctor. I have no medical training. I am not an expert. I have been 18 weeks pregnant with twins and I have read all the twin pregnancy books. I have also done the research and spoken to dozens of women about their twin pregnancies. Based on my experience, theirs, and the reading I have done I want to give women an idea as to what a twin pregnancy entails. I fully acknowledge that a woman can get pregnant with twins, work until her 35th week, have a vaginal delivery, and go home with 2 healthy babies without spending a day in the NICU. But this is not the norm. [...] [...] I am not a doctor. I have no medical training. I am not an expert. I have been 18 weeks pregnant with twins and I have read all the twin pregnancy books. I have also done the research and spoken to dozens of women about their twin pregnancies. Based on my experience, theirs, and the reading I have done I want to give women an idea as to what a twin pregnancy entails. I fully acknowledge that a woman can get pregnant with twins, work until her 35th week, have a vaginal delivery, and go home with 2 healthy babies without spending a day in the NICU. But this is not the norm. [...]

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